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Missing Friday 9/5/08 - Lackawanna, NY - Etidal Abdullah - please help!

Still no word on this beautiful young lady???  I am shocked there are no more posts here nothing in the news, has she just been forgotten??  The family is still in my prayers!!!

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DeeNeecy   in reply to soulight   on

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 in response to Cassie Minor...   

Thank you for your response, I have not logged in for quite sometime but had already found the whatley clinic in Vernon, Alabama.  They also have a clinic in many other rural areas.  Their main clinic is in Tuscaloosa and they have a dental clinic there.   They see their patients on the sliding fee process. This is at least better than paying a physician or a dentist full cost!!!!!  They treat the patients with dignity also!!  some of the best medical care I have ever received!!  Fantastic staff always ready to help you.  they even got my costly medications I use for maintenance drugs through a program that sends them to the doctors office and all I have to do is go pick them up... all for free!!!  

 

Dee Neecy 

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DeeNeecy   in reply to Lenadon   on

About Lenadon

I am confused over some of the posts here, I very much agree these are very hard times we live in, and I too suffer from health problems making me unable to work any longer.  I also still believe in sharing what little I do have to share, when I have it.

What confuses me however is some of the stories I read on here, If there is NO money for bills, food, etc.  Where does the money come from to pay the home phone bill?? The cell phone bills, the INTERNET bills??  These things to me are GREAT luxuries, not a necessity in order to live.

In order for someone to receive help from someone else they must first be willing to try to help themselves.  By this I mean cutting out all unnecessary items from your life, as hard as it may be.  I went for a couple of years without even basic cable.  I had what my daughter lovingly refers to as country cable.  Rabbit ears.... I did not have a telephone, I lived off of only the basic necessities.  When you are able to do this, then and only then are people willing to help you. 

 

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Missing Friday 9/5/08 - Lackawanna, NY - Etidal Abdullah - please help!

I have been following this story as closely as possible, is there STILL no new news on this beautiful young lady??  Have there been any more reports of phone calls from her?  I would like to know how the police determined that the 1st phone call made by "her" was actually this lady?   How do they know it was not someone who knew her well and may have been posing AS her?

This is all very confusing and I am hoping this family is not allowing the police department to go to sleep on this case.  Even if she left willingly, I believe her family needs to make sure the message they convey to her is all they want is to know she is alive, healthy and happy.  

I pray, this is not a case of foul play and she is no longer with us.  Please everyone, do not let this story die.  Everyone NEEDS to continue looking for her until EVERYONE KNOWS without a doubt where she is.

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DeeNeecy   in reply to simplycrazy   on

About simplycrazy

My husband who passed away at 40 years old from a cocaine addiction was never around for our kids... we owned 2 businesses and I worked as a manager for wal-mart, working many, many hours to keep a roof over our heads because he at times had a 8 to 9 thousand dollar a week habit!!  I finally put him on the road and he died soon after with nothing.  A pitiful way for someone who had that much intelligence to allow themself to fall!!

I was left with our 3 children, his daughter from a previous marriage, a granddaughter, and a friend of my oldest daughter who was being sexually abused at home and her mother wouldn't do anything about it... although I made decent money, times were tough keeping all the bills paid, kids in clothes, and all the other necessities, food...

Today, each and everyone of those kids know exactly what I did for them and how I sacrificed my life for them.  None of them asked to be brought into this world and I knew it was MY job to take care of them.  They are grown and on their own now.  I now have a total of 7 grandchildren and I am 44 years old... wow huh??  Yes my husband was older than Me.

I have also been in your position, where I "tried" to help friends in need, more than once and only ended up getting stabbed in the back, used, etc... I finally learned that I can only help those willing to help themselves.  I was no longer going to allow things to be taken from my kids for the sake of me helping someone else... my kids came first...

I am now disabled and am living off of less in a month than I was used to making in a week.  Everyone one of those kids would do anything in the world for me now... that is my payment...

Hang in there and know that things can and will get better... the system sucks, I know... I never could get any help from them and can't now... so I don't even try...

I guess what I am getting at is... I had determination, I found friends and family that were willing to help keep a watch over my kids as I worked my butt off to move higher and higher within my job... I started out part time, within 3 weeks was offered full time and within 1 year was assistant manager, and within 3 years of assistant management had my own store.  It is possible... the only regret I have is not getting to spend a whole lot of time with the kids as they were growing up... but they understood what I was doing and why... and they appreciate that!!

I do hope everything works out for you...

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DeeNeecy   in reply to soulight   on

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Is there no help in the state of Alabama??  Figures...

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DeeNeecy   in reply to simplycrazy   on

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Not to sound mean or anything, but  honey, you are in no position to help someone who is not working... you have you and your son to think about... my first question is... if these "friends" aren't working, then why are they not keeping your child while you work???  It don't make sense...

My answer is to send the friends packing... and worry about you and your son, ONLY!!   

 

 

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DeeNeecy   in reply to christmas_miracle   on

About I_Found_my_child

I just read your post, I haven't been on here for long... I do hope your daughter got the shoes she so desired, but don't feel you have to buy her love... I am sure she is happy to be home with you, Shoes are not the issue right now...

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Missing Friday 9/5/08 - Lackawanna, NY - Etidal Abdullah - please help!

 in response to yemeni...   

I cannot believe someone would be worried about a person "dishonoring" their "family"...

Maybe she is being held against her will... maybe she had a reason to run from her family... only she knows right now... who knows, maybe her family has "dishonored" her....

I pray she is healthy and happy...  

 

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DeeNeecy   in reply to J GEE   on

About J GEE

I do not understand how if you were laid off from your job you have been denied unemployment... if you quit, etc. then you can be denied without due cause to do so... or be penalized. were you just part time??? You need to file an appeal first, if you were a full time employee and have enough credits then they cannot turn you down...

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DeeNeecy   in reply to tinny00_00   on

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hon, I really don't think this is the best place in the world to go searching for someone to "take care of you"... 

Get out there and do something to help you, then maybe the person you seek will come into your life... 

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DeeNeecy  

Missing Persons Board

 in response to perlis...   

I have friends in Tegucigalpa Honduras... I will contact them and see if they know this person

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Missing Friday 9/5/08 - Lackawanna, NY - Etidal Abdullah - please help!

Sometimes I believe this is a horrible world in which we all have to live!!    I hope this beautiful young lady if found safe and sound!!   God bless, and my prayers are with her and her family!!

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DeeNeecy   in reply to DeeNeecy   on

About DeeNeecy

 in response to helpontheway...   

Thank you very much, I do appreciate that!  I have seen much better day's.  But I am a survivor.  

This too shall pass!!! 

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About DeeNeecy

Hello, I don't really know a lot to say here, I use photography to help keep my sanity as you can see from my photos, I  will do my best to tell my story in hopes that it will help someone else.  I don't have any money to offer financial assistance to anyone.  I am no longer in that position anymore, I have been there, funny how when one becomes no longer able to pass out cash, friends become far and few between.  I have read many posts on here and I feel your pain.  You see, I have an education, I left home at 15, Pregnant and alone.  Married at 16, had another child at 17 and when he was 2 months old, found myself miserable, beaten down, and not knowing what to do.  I fled the relationship and was homeless with 2 small children.     I met someone who at one time was my soul mate, we married and had a baby girl together,I even managed to graduate from high school during this time, soon after I found out he was a closet Cocaine addict.  I knew I had to do something, I found a minimum wage job, and enrolled in college.   He owned a custom Motorcycle shop in which he made fantastic money.  Although it did not take him long to go through it as an IV drug addict.     I managed to get through college, get a great paying retail managers job and things were looking up, although I had a very demanding job, I managed to hang on to our business, work crazy hours, keep my house up, laundry, cleaning, cooking, paying bills, raising 4 children, my 2, our 1 and his from a previous marriage.

I was able to put him through re-hab 3 times during our marriage of 16 years.  I held onto it as long as I mentally could.  That is until my oldest daughter became pregnant at 17, the baby was born prematurely but did great!!  I decided to end my marriage 2 weeks after bringing my grand daughter home after finding out that my husband had cleaned out our checking account.  With him gone, I was able to pick up the pieces and get back on my feet.  Only by the Grace of God.  

Me being one at the time who had never been able to make good decisions where men were concerned, met someone I once again, thought was a great man, until of course I married him.... I found myself once again, putting my career on hold as I helped him to build the business he had always wanted, at which point he grew a better than thou attitude towards me and everyone he came in contact with.  You see, he had NOTHING when we got together and I had managed to fix his credit, build his contracting business up to a booming commercial construction business and ended up traveling all over the States with him as his business got bigger and bigger, 

all the while having to turn down offers of promotions to District Manager with my company because of the frequent moves.  As my luck would have it, he turned into a raging alcoholic.  Became very verbally abusive, calling me horrible names... I once again found myself paying all the bills, buying all the groceries and "taking care of a drunk"... all the while his bank account grew larger and larger...

I finally had enough and walked out on that one, feeling as though something was wrong with me.  There was, I was a sh*t magnet.  I did not have good influences growing up as far as relationships were concerned.

I managed to raise all 4 children alone, along with my grandchild. My Children are all grown and out of the house now.  My problem is our wonderful Government!!  I am now 44 years old and on disability.  I get a disability check every month in the amount of $805, in which $35 is taken out for an old student loan, I applied for a hardship which was turned down.  I have NO medical insurance, I draw too much to be eligible for medicaid and not eligible for medicare until June of 2009.  I live in a rural community, I called the local state health department to inquire about medical care there, pap smears, mammograms, etc.... only to be told that since my tubes are tied they cannot see me.  I am raising a grandson who is 5 years old.  I pay $300 in rent, I have water bill, trash bill, and electricity to pay from the $770 I get each month.  I have what my daughter calls "country cable" No cable here... I can't afford it.  

My life is looking up, after much Therapy, while I was still able to work and had insurance, I have learned a lot about why I have made the choices I have made in life. 

  I look at each day as a blessing.  I am still alive.  There were many times when I hoped I would just die.  Thank God again, those days are over.  I stayed alone for 4 years to just get my mind in order.   I met a man 2 1/2 years ago, that is actually a good man, can you believe that? He has been wonderful to me and my grandson.  

I am sometimes very bitter about the fact that I worked very hard my entire life and never asked for a bit of assistance through everything I went through.  Now that I have asked, I am turned down and have doors shut in my face everywhere I turn.  I even tried to get help with a power bill recently, only to be told they would pay $180.00 of a $500 bill, I was grateful for just that.  It has been 2 months since they called the power company and pledged that amount.  It has still not been paid.  Now the power company is denying the pledge.  Now I have to find out how to pay that.

My question is, why is it, when a person is completely honest to the county and state offices we are turned down.  Are they trying to teach us to lie to them?  for over 27 years, I worked hard, paid my taxes and never got a dime from the government.  I did it all on my own.  Now when I need them, they turn their back on me.

I feel everyone on here's pain... All I can say to everyone is, We have to try and look at the good things in life.  Hope for a better tomorrow. Then do a lot of praying that one day our ship will return to us.

Any comments you would like to leave are appreciated:  I hope everyone here finds the help they seek.  God Bless 

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